Every villain is a hero in his own mind

OKAY so. Let me tell you a story about how fucking racist and rude people can be. Firstly we were stuck in the car with Alan for 5 hours or so? It was a 2 1/2 hour journey but it took twice as long because of several accidents on the roads. He also drove so fast we ended up with a bad stomach ache afterwards. Alan himself is a nice man (and he's done so good for our mum so we're never gonna speak against him to his face) but he's very overbearing and has a thick black country-type accent so is difficult to understand. He also seems to have no concept of what is okay to say about foreigners or not, calling them slur names, blaming them for run down parts of villages/towns etc It made us feel so uncomfortable just sitting in the car. He's straight up racist but also is like 64 so that's at least is easier to understand from our generation's POV?

So eventually we arrived in Wales and mum basically rushed us to go outside and stuff as we had a meal booked at a Chinese restaurant. She also told us my brother-in-law Dane would be coming too and he is honestly an absolute cunt. Basically, he used to be pretty nice and stuff, he was hard-working but I knew he had an awful relationship with his mother. He was going under some stress and such and then he cracked, saw Jesus and some shit and committed himself into a mental hospital who said he had schizophrenia and aspergers. Okay cool, at least he got diagnozed.

But then he just got so lazy it was unbelievable, started being incredibly rude to my sister and my mum, and went so far as to make my other sister cry at Christmas. He blames everything on his illness and now is milking the benefits system, openly stating that he is happy he never has to work again. He spends his days drinking, smoking and leeching off of my sister. He treats her like absolute shit and will never admit that he's changed. As far as I know he's still in therapy but what that's doing who knows.

For a while I just assumed that he's very ill and obviously needs therapy but I'm really not so sure any more. Mum says she's seem him running about without his stick (he gained a LOT of weight so now says he has back problems), and that he seems to be faking a lot of things. He loves to be the centre of attention and will be incredibly rude to most of my family and strangers.

When my sister was very ill in hospital with hydrocephalus he only visited because mum took him, and even then he started a huge argument yelling at the nurse and upsetting her for NO reason. He's an absolute cunt, seriously. I don't believe it's his illness at all. And apparently he has like everything ever wrong with him and managed to sign onto PIP and get a blue badge (whilst even my nana who was VERY ill for many years was refused one). It's absolutely disgusting, seriously.

So anyways, tonight we were at a Chinese restaurant and he proceeded to make VERY loud comments about how he hated Chinese food, how there was only ONE english thing on the menu, told the chinese waitress she should get English lessons and generally took the piss. It upset me to the point I had to walk out and just rant to Charlie bc jesus christ it was bad. My sister just fucking agreed with everything he said too like?? And Alan and my Uncle just spoke over the lady as she was asking for our orders, and then they took the piss when she couldn't hear them. Just nnnnghhhh. There is NO fucking need.

Not to mention almost everyone messing around with the chopsticks like they were 5 years old - sticking them in their mouth like teeth, in their nose, banging them on the table and stabbing them into food, saying loudly that they didn't want to use them. Honestly I felt so fucking ashamed.

I honestly feel like I just went to dinner with a bunch of spoiled kids, not adults. At least I just have tomorrow and then the day after we're going back home. SIGGGH.